542. Expert Interview: Refreshing Your Marriage

Zev Halpern

Zev Halpern is a licensed psychotherapist and marriage coach practicing from his office in Brookeville, Maryland, as well as coaching couples online across the country and world. He’s a TV show and podcast host, author and speaker with more than 25 years of experience. With the divorce rate climbing, Zev has turned his attention to helping couples find mutual paths to marital fulfillment and family stability. His laid back yet straight shooting approach is the perfect combination to help couples deal with the issues that have been driving them apart.

Refreshing Your Marriage–How Couples Can Learn to Explore, Experiment and Play Again

Marriage gets raw, and people find themselves in places where they just can’t get out of their rut. Or they are just tired of being with each other. There are many reasons for that. One of the biggest reasons is that they haven’t figured out a way to resolve some of the conflicts they have.

Why Is This Important?

“They don’t teach us in school about conflict resolution in marriage. It’s important. If you want things to change in your marriage—if you’re living in a marriage and you crave attention and caring but are not getting it—you have to speak up! Speaking up is the first step toward letting your partner know things are just not going well. If you don’t say something, it can go on forever and ever, and it often does.”

What Are the Key Lessons Learned Here?

“There are myriad things you can do to refresh your marriage. If you do one of them, just one, you’ll already be on your way to doing what your partner desperately craves from you. To begin, speak up, listen, respond, and be willing to try new things, to experiment, explore and play. Don’t stay locked in an unsatisfying status quo.”