746. Expert Interview: Overcoming Fear and Employing Courage
Melanie Curtis
“I really believe everything has positive value. So even when I cannot see it in a painful time, there is a faith and a belief that I know there is some benefits and positivity there for me. It is just up to me to keep looking and find the nugget that’s going to help me grow forward. So, everything for me is be brave, rest, repeat, which implies we don’t always have to be out there slugging it out with courage.”
Melanie Curtis is the life coach for people who don’t like life coaches. She went from investment banking to professional skydiving to life coaching. Now she helps people overcome fear while actually making the torture of that growth fun and funny. Working with Melanie is not for the faint of heart, but the skills you learn change everything.
Overcoming Fear and Employing Courage
“This topic helps people who have an overdeveloped skill set of externally achieving. So the overachievers of the world, the perfectionists—and I was one myself—we are typically without the emotional skill set to help us with the feelings we feel when we come face to face with life’s many challenges. Without those emotional skills to deal with our feelings, we are stopped in terms of how much we can create, how much we can connect, how much we can lead.”
Why Is This Important?
“There are myriad fears that individuals are facing in today’s increasingly stressed and complex world. One of those is the fear of not being good enough. And that’s where the overachieving and perfectionism come from—to compensate for the lack of self-acceptance. Another one that I see more and more these days with social media and our digital lives is disconnection. As human beings, we are wired to connect, to love, and share love and to build really deep, rich and meaningful relationships. If we are not doing that, not making the effort to truly connect with others, we tend to sink into a state of being unfulfilled and believe we will be forever alone.”
What Are the Key Lessons Learned Here?
“I would invite people to start looking at their mindsets and the feelings that underlie them. Our feelings are our cues for what we are thinking. Even the emotions that we often describe as negative—fear, anxiety, sadness—are useful and valuable in guiding us to what we are thinking. Then from there we can decide and determine our actions, whether we make a change in our lives, do something differently or just lean into self-acceptance or whatever it is we might need.”
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Careers: Investment Banker, Life Coach, Skydiving
Topics: Fear, Overachievers