759. Expert Interview: The Biggest Bottleneck to Your Success

Kim Ades

“…but what they don’t know is that by and large, how they think and how it influences them is pretty much invisible to them, so they’re not aware of this very important relationship between their thinking and their outcomes. And that’s why we call it the biggest bottleneck.”

Kim Ades is the President and Founder of Frame of Mind Coaching™ and JournalEngine™ Software. Author, speaker, entrepreneur, coach, and mother of five, she is recognized as one of North America’s foremost experts on performance through thought mastery. Using her unique philosophy and quirky coaching style, Kim helps her clients shift their thinking in order to yield extraordinary results and personal transformation.

The Biggest Bottleneck to Your Success

“How we think about our lives is how we experience our lives. Our biggest blind spot or bottleneck is that most of us, including me earlier in my life, are not aware of how our minds actually process events and information in our daily lives or the many pitfalls that occur because of this misunderstanding—which often prevents us from reaching our goals. The good news is that there are proven ways to help anyone understand and dramatically improve their thinking to break out of this bottleneck.”

Why Is This Important?

“Some people interpret events in a way that serves them and some people interpret events in ways that leave them as victims. The way you view the world and your experiences, the way you view yourself, and the way you view others all come together to form who you are. Some of your views create problems for you, slow you down, while some of your views help you soar.”

What Are the Key Lessons Learned Here?

“The following is a journaling exercise that we use to help individuals achieve more clarity faster. Answer the following three questions:

1. What do you really want?
Oftentimes people have the hardest time answering this question—they have no idea. Begin by thinking deeply about what your heart wants, what you truly deeply desire, not what is expected of you or what somebody else wants.
Write that down.

2. Why do you want it?
Why is it important to you? What would your life be like if you never had what you really, really want?

3. What’s stopping you from achieving what you really want?
Dig deeply on this one.

This is just one exercise designed to help you begin to break out of the ‘old way’ of thinking that’s the biggest bottleneck to achieving your goals, try new things and live life on your own terms.”