275. Expert Interview: Facing Your Dragon, Facing Your Fears

“The more we can admit and get in touch with our greatest fear—and actually face it—the more we can learn to use all those biochemicals from that amazing pharmacy in our head, without letting them force us into fight, flight or freeze. This really creates an opportunity for us to understand and use the adrenaline, dopamine, oxytocin and all these naturally occurring neurochemicals to our benefit. When we do have those moments of fight, flight or freeze, we can learn how to be courageous enough to surrender to this field of energy around us. We can trust that it’s going to work out, instead of letting our intellect get in the way and create a push-and-pull, tugging effect. It’s about that gap—that split-second of time—between choice and action, when you can make a different choice.

“In all of my years in the transformational leadership space—almost 10 years—I’ve found that we all have these five core blocks, or dragons, or fears that keep us stuck. They keep us from taking action and move forward. They’re the fear that:

1) You’ll be found out as an imposter or fraud (whatever that is to you).

2) People won’t want what you offer.

3) You’ll never have the courage to charge what you’re worth, so you’ll undercut yourself.

4) People won’t understand the difference you can make for them. Whatever you’ve created for them just won’t fly.

5) If you achieve the dream, you’ll be criticized, or your personal life will suffer. The fear of success.