264. Dating Quandaries Lead Him to the Divine Feminine

“When I was in high school in England where I’m from, I noticed two things. One is that I wasn’t getting the dates with the girls who were inviting out the guys. Secondly, I was really challenged / disturbed / frustrated watching girls make bad choices. It was almost like I felt I was their protector or something. A side of me wanted to make sure they were taking care of themselves, but I would see them choose badly, get hurt, wounded, etc. So, it became this innate, I won’t say gift, but certainly my drive that I was always there for my female friends, pretty much all the way through my life.”

“Living in Los Angeles in the 1980s, holding a recently issued Green Card, Barry met a friend for breakfast. Noting that his friend looked tired, Barry asked if he’d been out partying. ‘No, no, I was at this thing called a seminar.’ I’d never heard of one of these things at the time. He proceeded to tell me he’d been to this event, the beginning of a six-day seminar, and he said he’d learned some good information and met some cool people—and there were some really cute women there. I said, ‘Where do I sign up?’ That was the turning point that would change my life. From that point forward, from late ’84 until now I’ve been very involved and invested in the personal growth industry, as part of my learning and growth and development of myself.”

“Understanding the masculine and feminine polarity in relationships and in human development changed my relationship to everybody, and everything shifted for me. Up to late 2006 or 2007—after 20-something years of searching—I’d never really learned about it. What I discovered was a piece missing from my own understanding and logic, and also my embodiment, of how to be in a healthy relationship in a masculine polarity. And when I grasped that, everything changed.”

1. Find out what really drives you.

2. Ask deep questions in your life, and then listen to the answers that come back.

3. Take action on what your inner voice is telling you.

4. Recognize there’s more to life than what you know. Life isn’t over when you experience a loss or setback.